These questions are designed to initiate conversations about having a calm and relaxed mindset. They provide opportunities for students to think through what it means to be calm and peaceful and how to be self-aware about creating that calm in their own sphere. The discussion provides a way to apply the affirmation to each of the five core competencies of social and emotional learning.
We provide the idea-starters with the intent that teachers can develop creative variations to adapt to age-appropriate use for their students.
SEL Discussion Resource: I AM CALM, RELAXED AND PEACEFUL
- Write or say the affirmation together: I am calm, relaxed, and peaceful
- Describe the state of your physical body when you are calm and relaxed. Consider your breathing, mental focus, muscles, digestive system, sleep, facial expression, heartbeat, and more.
- When you are relaxed and peaceful, what emotions do you experience?
- What feelings do you experience when you are the opposite of calm, relaxed, and peaceful?
- When you want to calm yourself down, what are some expressions you can include in your self-talk in addition to “I am calm, relaxed, and peaceful”?
- Explain why self-talk matters. What does it do in your brain?
Sometimes we need to challenge our thoughts. We might be worked up about something without thinking it through. Give an example of a way you could boss back these negative thoughts to calm your mind:
- I quit. This is too hard.
- I’m going to fail for sure.
- No one will hang out with me anyway.
- Even if I study, this is hopeless.
- When a friend is becoming upset, what do you observe in their actions, their facial expressions, and their words that gives you a clue to how they are feeling?
- What can you do to help someone calm down while still validating their feelings and not ignoring how they feel. (Example: discuss how the phrased “calm down” or “stop thinking that way” aren’t helpful.)
- When you have a difference of opinion with friends, how can you have a peaceful discussion where everyone is heard and appreciated for their differences?
- Discuss why listening is important for understanding how others can feel differently from us in the same situation. How does listening help you to be calm, relaxed, and peaceful?
- Describe how it feels to resolve a conflict peacefully.
Next week’s SEL focus: I AM A WINNER
To find the full-size posters to use in your classroom (or the magnet or postcard size) visit our store.
Suggestion for virtual learning:
- Purchase a pack of 30 postcards for the teacher to hold the appropriate one up to the screen during discussion.
- Purchase a pack of 30 small hand-off notes for each student to have at home with them. This allows for an interactive and hands-on experience.