This week’s free SEL discussion resource focuses on growing a positive sense of self-confidence and collaborating with others for success. The discussion is a way to apply the affirmation to each of the five core competencies of social and emotional learning.

We provide the idea-starters with the intent that teachers can develop creative variations to adapt to age-appropriate use for their students. 

SEL Discussion Resource:  I FEEL CONFIDENT


Write or say the affirmation together: I feel confident.

  • Finish the sentence: I feel most confident when _____________.
  • Describe how your body reacts when you feel confident.


  • Without enough confidence, it’s easy to give up too soon or not get started at all. When you are about to do something big and you don’t feel as confident, how do you build your confidence up?
    • What things do you say?
    • What do you do?
    • Who do you talk to?
    • How do you prepare ahead for setbacks that are sure to come?
  • Writing assignment – List at least three things to complete this sentence: I know I’m good at ______________.
    • If you don’t know what to say, think of what compliments a friend or a teacher would give you.
    • Pair with someone to share your lists with each other.

Responsible decision-making

  • Finish this sentence: If I were confident I would not fail, I would. ____________.
    • Now, write a paragraph about what might happen if you weren’t confident but tried it anyway.
    • What might happen if you failed?
    • What bothers you about the idea of failing?
    • What might happen if you took the risk and succeeded?
  • Do you agree or disagree with this statement? Confidence does not equal the absence of fear.
  • How can knowing your limitations increase your confidence?
    • Describe how knowing when to ask for help is part of success.

 Social awareness

  • What is the difference between being confident and being braggy (arrogant)?
    • Make a list with two columns. In one list the qualities that come with confidence (bold, positive, optimistic, brave, encourages others, etc.). In the other, list the qualities that come with being arrogant (self-centered, know-it-all, cocky, superior, bossy, etc.).

 Relationship skills

  • Describe how teamwork sometimes helps to increase confidence. (Think of collaborating strengths, giving verbal support, etc.)
    • Why is it a trap to think you can do everything alone?
  • Make a list of words or short phrases that could be used to boost confidence in someone else.


Next week’s SEL focus: I AM GRATEFUL

To find the full-size posters to use in your classroom (or the magnet or postcard size) visit our store.

Suggestion for virtual learning:

  • Purchase a pack of 30 postcards for the teacher to hold the appropriate one up to the screen during discussion.
  • Purchase a pack of 30 small hand-off notes for each student to have at home with them. This allows for an interactive and hands-on experience.